Low self-esteem is one of those things that sucks love, joy, and happiness from your life. I will give you the really, really great news up front: self-esteem is something that you can impact! So, if you have low self-esteem you are by no means stuck with it. Keep reading!
Self-esteem is a person’s overall belief of their own worth or value. Essentially, it’s how much you like yourself, and it often impacts your behaviors.
Your motivation and even success can be tremendously impacted by the level of self-esteem you possess. If you self-esteem is low, it may be harder for you to success in school, work, or your personal life. However, if your self-esteem is high, it may be easier for you to success and navigate the challenges of accomplishing your goals and forming relationships.
Many years ago, a friend and I were discussing self-esteem and whether or not either one of us had low self-esteem. She knew that I occasionally talked to a therapist, and she asked me to ask the therapist, if I got the chance, about low self-esteem. One day I got the chance, and I asked.
The therapist roared with laughter and said immediately: “Who are you asking for?” I was taken aback and not prepared for this response. I casually said that I was asking for myself because I didn’t want to admit that I was asking for a friend. The therapist laughed even harder saying again, “Who are you really asking for?”
So, I admitted that I was asking for a friend. Then he stopped laughing and said, that it was clear that I didn’t have low self-esteem so it had to be for someone else. He went onto explain by giving me an example that went like this:
A husband comes home from work and is in an angry huff. The wife seeing her husband’s behavior upon arriving home immediately thinks to herself that she should have worn a different outfit or she should have cooked something else for dinner or perhaps cleaned up the house a bit more.
Upon hearing the above example, it was my turn to laugh hard. No! That’s definitely not me. I would never think like that. It would never occur to me to think like that. That exchange was so shocking to me that it lives as something that I will possibly never forget. That is a completely foreign way of thinking for me, yet it is commonplace for many people in our society.
In the 1960’s sociologist Morris Rosenberg developed a self-esteem scale, which can be found online in the form of a simple test that can even be scored electronically. This is an online test you can take and score in a few seconds. Just make sure you read each question fully before answering.
Alternatively, you could look over this list and see how many of these signs and symptoms you have or someone you know has.
If you still are unsure, here are some specific examples of phrases people with low self-esteem often use:
Now that we’ve dived into low self-esteem, let’s look at the characteristics of someone with high self-esteem, which should give you a good basis for comparison as you read further.
Typically people with high self-esteem:
Low self-esteem, like high self-esteem can be found in all types of people including very successful professionals across all employment fields. It is not limited to one socioeconomic category. Some years ago, when I was working with my children, I did extensive research to find all of the signs and symptoms of low self-esteem. What surprised me was that low self-esteem was not like depression where there is an agreed upon list of criteria for what constitutes depression. Low self-esteem was all over the board.
I am not a therapist or medical professional in any capacity, this list is simply that – a list of what is said to be a sign or a symptom of low self-esteem. It seems from my research one of the more noticeable signs or symptoms is being sensitive to criticism, or perceived criticism, and being hypervigilant to signs of rejection or perceived signs of rejection. Individuals with low self-esteem can perceive criticism, rejection, rebuff, or disapproval when there isn’t any.
Now, let me share with you the negative impact that low self-esteem can have on you. This is a compiled list with everything I could find about the negative effects it has on people.
Typically those who have a low self-esteem will be more likely to:
The above list is not going to give you a happy life. The negative impacts of low self-esteem are counter to what you want going on in your life.
The good news is that low self-esteem is something that you can change – over time with some effort.SO, what are you waiting for? Here is a list of some of the best ways to start your journey on moving up the scale of self-esteem. You can get there. I know that you can.
On the road to having a life that you LOVE, low self-esteem is one of the show stoppers that can rob you of love, joy, and happiness. Yet, even if you have low self-esteem right now, it is not something that you are stuck with!
There are plenty of things that you can do on a daily basis that over time will completely transform your life. If you spent 15 minutes a day working on your life or yourself then in a year you will have spent 91 hours forwarding or improving your life. That is significant. That is so doable! Everyone has 15 minutes that they can spare. The question is are you willing to have a life that you LOVE?
We are all works in progress. While some people are stuck in the past or have no traction to move forward, it is possible for anyone to create a life that they love over time. Helping people live their best life with LOVE, joy, and happiness is one of my passions. What is holding you back in life? What support do you need? How can I help you? There is no time like the present to take command of your life and start doing the things that are necessary for you to be happy and have a powerful life you LOVE. That is what I want for all of you – sheer love, joy, and happiness. Let me know how I can help you get there.
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